Here is a not so secret secret....
I grew up on the streets of Baltimore Maryland. Spent a good portion of my life there to be honest, at least until I made my way to the sunny lands of Southern California.
Although it wasn't on purpose, it was still within my purpose, if you are catching what I am throwing.
Growing up in one of the murder capitals of the world was not an easy thing and I would be lying if I said there are habits that still plague me from what I call an "Indoctrination to the Hood Mentality".
Despite those said habits I do not look at my time there as bad. On the contrary, it was so very "normal" to me that I am not sure I know how to perceive it other than "It was, what it was" and "I was as happy as can be expected."
In that case, the past was in static. It happened. It shaped me in some ways, but it already happened. There are plenty of things I could say from a 20/20 perspective ( That saying will always have a few meanings after this year, but I digress) that I would change, but it is entirely possible that I would not be the man I am today if I made too many different choices.
The concept of the movie "Butterfly Effect" comes to mind and I would be remiss if I didn't advise against the concept of thinking too hard about what could have been different since it could in fact unmake what you...made.
Now, I am not saying that the movie was real, or that the concept is factual. I mean, how could I? There is no way to prove it, but that doesn't change the fact that we are made up of a multitude of choices and a lack thereof.
If we can agree on that, then we can assume (I would say assess to be honest) that if we change one or too many of those important choices it would fundamentally change who we have become.
Yes, for some of you that could be a optimal choice, however, there is a lesson in each and every experience found in each of those choices.
What is more important for us to understand is to not spend too much time looking backwards.
I have already stated that the past is static. Yes, you can learn from it, but beyond pleasant memories and lessons learned, there is very little value in delving so far into what has already happened.
Yesterday can be a powerful and insidious thing.
It can free you or "freeze" you.
It can make you a mountain or it can make you a molehill.
It can open up to success or close you down in failure.
The choice will always be up to you.
There will be times when we all get caught up in where we have been even though we know inherently that the past is fixed, unmoving and unchanging. It can only provide you with knowledge of what to do and not to do in the NOW and in the TOMORROW.
Yes pay heed to your history, for without history we have no foundation, but do not live in that history. Those of us who spend too much time looking behind us, will undoubtedly fall over something in front of them.
This is your now. This is the most important moment you could ever have. So yes...plan for a successful tomorrow, but never forget where you are today.